| Before you attempt to explain menstruation to
your daughter, she should have some basic understanding
of the following concepts:
• The differences between male and female private
body parts
• That a baby grows in the mother’s uterus – “the
birds and the bees” -
• The fact that it requires a male and a female
to make a baby
• How babies get in and how they get out of a woman’s
body
• The meaning of sexual intercourse
• A understanding or what is private vs secret
• A clear sense of your family’s values
If a child is eight or nine years old and theses
topics have not been addressed, try to find a teachable
moment in which to review the basics information about
the birds and the bees. Then, you can start with a
simple explanation about menstruation. For example:
• Menstruation, or having your period, is the
way the female body practices for a possible pregnancy
if and when she decides to have a baby.
• Menstruation happens to all girls when they start
puberty.
• Having your period is a very natural and normal
part of growing up.
Based upon the child’s initial responses and their
own levels of comfort, parents may want to add more
information. If, as a parent, you are uncomfortable
talking about the birds and the bees or with the topic
menstruation, try reading about it beforehand. Review
different approaches with friends who have youngsters
of similar ages to yours. Many communities provide
classes through local youth groups, hospitals, or
churches that focus on puberty and helping girls (and
mothers) explain the first
menstrual period. Attend a class with your daughter
as a way of opening the doors of communication for
a productive first period discussion. A very popular
class is offered by Dr. de Freitas called “Healthy
Chats for Girls” Often schools offer a mother-daughter
session with a visiting physician, or a school nurse
during the fifth grade. Parents can also provide their
children with age-appropriate books. Always makes
sure your browse the book first. Follow these suggestions,
and you are off to a good start. However, your parental
responsibility has just begun. Children need to hear
and review information about their sexuality many
times throughout their preteen and teen years. Healthy
sexuality is a lifelong learning process. May you
continue to have healthy chats with your children.
|
